Monday, February 21, 2011

Relationship Coaching and Resolving Conflicts

Relationship coaching can be the toughest coaching I do. You must stay neutral as the coach and many times you end up being a mediator to a huge fight. Don't let that frighten you.. It is very rewarding to see the outcome. I thoroughly enjoy what I learn through my client's and couple coaching constitutes the majority of my business during this time of year.
For some reason, quarrels surface that may have been repressed through the holidays and now are being dealt with. However, how couple's deal with conflicts will determine whether or not they stay together. Conflict resolution is a skill that takes practice and patience. From you as the coach as well as the couple's you are coaching.
I am very grateful for the knowledge I have received through research, clients and my own relationships concerning this subject. These lessons have taught me how to be a better spouse, mother and even step-parent.
Here is a taste of what you will learn about conflict resolution by taking the Intuitive Life Coach Training (ILC) See Upcoming Training Beginning March 10 (Your Awakening) May 18th (ILC) Course Outline
Mapping this on paper creates more clarity for what is really bothering your client.
When Speaking....
1. Separate the Issue from the person.. (the issue has to be concrete.. Something you saw or heard)
2. Never start the discussion with "Why do you.... or You ..." These become attacks at the person, thus creating a defensive reaction and the discussion becomes heated.
3. Keep the conversation in first person. Include, What do you think? What do you feel? What do you want?
4. What action steps have you done in the past that have not worked and what can you do currently to resolve this and how will it be different in the future.

When Listening.... Listen to Understand not to create the next argument
1. Don't get defensive and interrupt
2. No eye rolling or sarcasm
3. Reflect back to the person what they said (you don't have to agree, but this helps you get to how they feel or their point of view and helps them feel heard)
4. Ask for the win/win situation for both of you and sometimes that means agreeing to disagree.

By using these guidelines as a coach, you can assist in finding happy grounds for each person. Remember to keep the words right and wrong out of the scenario; your job is to promote growth and encourage a loving caring relationship. I look forward to meeting you in training!

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Learning to be financially prosperous as a Light Worker

Hi Sandra:
I enjoyed your email about getting answers to prayers. I am at a transitional place now with my business and am definitely seeking answers through prayer. I keep trying to apply the law of attraction, Prayer, Faith etc., and I just know that the next day is going to bring the changes etc., that I desire, but it's not happening! What am I doing wrong OR better yet, what more can I do? I feel like I have put forth more energy and positive "feelings" than anyone I know, but nothing is changing and others seem to move forward without any effort. I wonder if I had more money, more classes, more faith, but that's not fair because I know that what I know is enough to get started and that my faith is strong - stronger than some others even. So where am I going wrong? -Julie, Washington

Dear Julie,
This is a common problem, especially with Light Workers. I have found that individuals who want to make a living serving others have many blocks about being paid to do something spiritual that may help others. In fact there is a statistic that says 80% of Light Workers make less than 25k a year. I used to fall in that category and was where you are. I did a lot of soul searching in the beginning and through experience of seeing clients and spirit's direction, I have learned many lessons.

1. You are doing a dis-service when there is not a fair exchange of energy, whether that be money, trade for service or whatever is appropriate for you. When individuals don't want to pay you or can't, they are hurting themselves of prosperity coming in. It is the law of cause and effect; when you give, you receive. You must have a fair exchange of energy.

2. To determine how much you can charge for sessions, you must go within and ask what you feel is a fair exchange, what you are giving and what you are receiving. Your job is to raise what I call your "money thermostat", the value you place on your service. If it is too low or high, in other words it doesn't match your beliefs, your desires won't be met. (by the way, your real or subconscious desires are always being met on some level. Refer to no. 3&4)

3. To raise your money thermostat, you must match desire and belief in your subconscious, where your deep seeded beliefs lie. Use the "Meditate on the Go" Journal and planner to assist you in getting clear on what you want and how to get it. You must get comfortable with whatever amount of income you want. When desire and beliefs don't match, the puzzle pieces of universal flow won't fit and it will not come in.

4. Do some emotional clearing on poverty issues that probably lie in the DNA. "I must work hard for money, money doesn't grow on trees, I must put it away and hoard it because there won't be enough later." These beliefs come from parents and grandparents raised during the depression. They very much play a part in your belief system. Rapid Eye has a great session to clear that using a scrambler method of disconnecting from the core belief and the DNA and re-framing what is better for you.

5. When going through challenges, ask what do I want to learn from this experience? Once upon a time you came from a place of all knowing, your Divine Self. You knew no fear from this place. You set up experiences that would give you contrasting emotions on this planet so you could have the experience of them. The knowledge gained provides you compassion, understanding and deeper love for humanity, if you allow them. Journal what you are learning from these experiences, many times, you will receive more information about yourself and the experience so you can move through it quicker.

Know that all of life's experiences are part of the journey you have laid out for yourself. Ask for more clarity and information about yourself. "Who am I and What is my purpose?" The two greatest questions that cannot be fully answered in this lifetime; because you're too magnificent.

Join me at the "Abundant Light Worker" a one day training designed to give you the tools to dissolve your prosperity blocks, market yourself as the expert in your field and make the money you deserve as a Light Worker.
Mon. Sept. 27th
9am - 6pm
Crystal Ray
661 W. State Rd.
Pleasant Grove, UT

Friday, April 2, 2010

Look how easy it is to lift Trent!

Enlightened Trainees at the Crystal Ray in Pleasant Grove, UT


From Left to Right Top Row:
Carlene Steadman, Kathy Carlson, Carolyn Knight, Monica Taylor, Trent Carlson, Diane Dunnnavant, Leslie Johnson,
Bottom Row: Sandra Baker, Kandy Graves, Gi Gi Turley, Shyra Jorgensen

Friday, February 12, 2010

Idaho January 2010 participants

We had an amazing group in Idaho Falls, Idaho in January. Life Coaching is expanding as more and more participants are joining the cause to come to the truth of knowing WHO WE ARE! Congratulations and I acknowledge you all on your journey
WASA!- Meaning transformation has already happened

Wednesday, February 10, 2010


From left to right: Top: Tiffany Redden, Sandra Baker, Brittany Suitter, Kathy Benjamin, Mary Taylor, Gaylene Biddulph
Bottom: Suzanne Woods , Daphne Taylor, John Crystal
Not pictured: Diane Merrill, Colleen Crystal, Leslie Johnson

Harnessing our energy to lift Wes Woods